Talking about periods can feel awkward, especially if you have never spoken to your coach or swimming teacher about them before.
You do not need to have a big conversation. Usually, one clear sentence is enough.
What can I say?
Try whichever sentence feels easiest:
"I have started my period and need to use the toilet."
"I need to change my period product."
"I have period pain today. Can I take a short break?"
"I have leaked and need somewhere private to change."
"Can I speak to you privately?"
You do not have to explain your cycle, your flow or which product you use unless you want to.
What if my coach is a different gender from me?
A coach of any gender can provide practical support.
They do not need personal experience of periods to understand that you may need the toilet, privacy, a change of kit or a short break.
If you would rather speak to another adult, you can ask for a parent, carer, team manager, another coach or another trusted person.
What should a coach do?
A supportive coach should:
- listen without making a joke or acting embarrassed;
- help you access a toilet or changing space;
- allow reasonable time to change a period product;
- respect your privacy;
- help contact a parent, carer or healthcare professional if you are unwell.
A coach is not there to diagnose period problems.
What if I just need the toilet?
You do not always have to say it is because of your period.
If you only need to change a product, "I need the toilet" may be enough.
If your coach understands why you sometimes need extra time, it may make future sessions easier, but sharing that information is your choice.
What if I am scared they will think I am making excuses?
Needing to manage a period is a normal health and hygiene need.
If you are in pain or feel unwell, that also deserves to be taken seriously.
You can be committed to swimming and still need a toilet break, an adapted session or a day off.
What if I am not listened to?
Tell another trusted adult.
That could be a parent, carer, another coach, swimming teacher, school staff member, club welfare or safeguarding lead, or pool staff member.
If you are repeatedly prevented from managing your period privately or safely, that is something an adult should help sort out.
You can plan the conversation before you need it
If you know periods are likely to make you nervous at swimming, you could speak to your coach at a calm time rather than waiting until there is a leak or painful cramp.
You might say:
"I have started my periods. If I need to get out to use the toilet, is it okay to tell you quietly?"
That small conversation can make the next session feel much easier.
Remember
You do not need perfect words.
Tell the coach what you need, not your whole medical history.