Quick answer
Using correct body words helps children understand their bodies, ask questions and explain when something feels wrong. You can use simple, factual language and reassure your child that bodies are private, questions are allowed and there is nothing shameful about learning the right words.
What your child may be wondering
- What does puberty mean?
- Why is my body changing?
- What is a vulva?
- What is a vagina?
- Where does wee come out?
- Where does period blood come out?
- Is it okay to feel embarrassed?
How you can support them
Use correct words calmly
Words like vulva, vagina, uterus, womb and urethra can feel unfamiliar at first. Saying them calmly helps your child understand that these are normal body words.
Keep explanations age-appropriate
Start with the question they asked, answer simply, and let them know they can ask more later.
Respect privacy
Knock before entering rooms or bathrooms, avoid jokes about body changes and do not share private information with others.
Reassure them that bodies change at different times
Puberty does not happen at the same time or in the same order for everyone.
What you could say
When to ask for help
Speak to a GP, school nurse or healthcare professional if your child has:
- very distressed feelings about body changes
- puberty starting very early
- worries that puberty has not started
- pain, soreness, itching or unusual symptoms
- worries about body or safety
- concerns about touch, pressure or feeling unsafe
Final reassurance
Calm, simple language helps children understand themselves, protect their privacy and ask for help when they need it.